Sexual Politics

Here is an attempt to make some simple bullets about what sexual politics:

Assuming everyone wants:

1) love and grows up with an experience of love, rejection, and correction.
2) Wants committed relationships, or ongoing relationships, and maybe sexual relationship(s) when appropriate to one's age and when the other person is of legal age of consent.
3) Your choice of hetero or homo relationships.

Sexual Politics is clearly focused on attraction or differences between sexes or even between the same sex depending on sexual security, physical security, proximity, and perceptions of threats to ones own self image. For example:

A) You may be walking down a street alone when you get eye contact from someone else.
B) You may be walking down a street alone when you hear a cat call or whistle.
C) You may be in town or in the city when someone challenges your manhood, challenges your wit, or challenges you in a way that makes you wonder if they want you to leave the room, community or neighborhood (scare you off).
D) You may or may not be accepted by coworkers that have served in the military, worked in construction, or are alpha males (macho guys).

The sexual politics between a man and a woman:

-Man tries to look at a woman, tries to get her attention, and tries to talk to her.
-Woman tries to look at a man, tries to get his attention, and tries to talk to him.
-Sometimes men and women don't want to talk to each other.
-Sometimes men or women want to work, study, or focus on other relationships than the person of the opposite sex who tries to get their attention.
-Sometimes men and women need introductions to highlight their strong points and then see they are actually interested in this person of the opposite sex.

The sexual politics involving gays or someone that might be gay has a couple of points:

-People judge people all the time.
-People judge people for having young faces
-People judge people when they are not muscular
-People that consider themselves gay may or may not say or do things to differently than people of the same sex.
-There probably is a kind of sexual politics or sexual friction between gay people like the kind between a hetero man and woman.


Deeper Fears are:

1) Fears about the financial cost of marriage, cost of raising a family, future alimony, child support, and health care costs and preexisting conditions.
2) Fears about have a stable job or having enough education or money for education.
3) Fears about possible mate's intelligence, class, education level (too high or too low), and whether your one intelligence or class is high enough or too high.
4) Fears about family acceptance, peers acceptance, co-workers acceptance of the possible mate or date including negative comments.
5) Fears that amount to issues of self confidence and if your age, education, and street smarts (business smarts) are strong.

So sexual Politics are pretty broad. And when you get older you have additional fears:

A) About loss of saved money.
B) About loss or sharing retirement funds.
C) Health care costs and the care of family dependents.

The political angle in the work place is a lot more interesting and to be avoided:

1) Don't date someone at work, and if you do wait till you are sure they are not the type of person to contact you during work with problems, questions, inquiries, fears, etc.
2) You may be looked down on if you are one of the younger people in the office.
3) You may be looked down on for not going to church.
4) You maybe be judged harshly if you are a young male with out a wife, children. 5) You maybe judged harder for perceptions of who you are dating or if you are going to a bar, pub or dance club.
6) You maybe judged politically if it seems you often have relationship problems or you can't handle your relationship problems outside of the office.
7) You may be rejected at work in an office for being either sex regardless of your experience or education.


Oddly sexual politics has some finer points:

A) If you have lived overseas, served in the military, or came from another city or country, you or your coworkers, classmates, or community may have negative thoughts about your past actions or associations.
B) Everyone wants to be loved, but they have to be open to love and find someone that will love them.
C) Your experience growing up teaches you aspects about what love is for you. You learn how hugs and kisses feel or don't feel. You learn whether you like the sound of your name and how if feels when someone says I love you. You see the look of love in the eyes, smile, and face of your family.
D) You may be looking for the same soft voice, smiling face, comfort, and supportive words that you learned when you were growing up.

Sexual Politics, US relationships, Family, Sexual Harassment